I recently posted on a Step-mom group on facebook. I wanted to see what everyone thought about how their dreams and aspirations have changed since becoming a Bonus Mom and what those dreams were. I wanted to see if as a collective we could brain storm and figure out a way to make each others dreams come true. Yes, I know we can't just pick up and move around becoming a nomad :( but maybe someone going back to school or becoming a motivational Speaker or whatever their dream was before all this happened. I got one response when I was trying to uplift these wonderful women. It confused me a little. woman post nsmr (not step mom related ) issues all the time like for example what dress should I wear on date night. they get 100s of responses.
so now my question is what are you afraid of? why was it a question that got overlooked or passed up on commenting? Did I phrase it wrong or is this something that some woman really just can't answer? Now Im looking within myself to really honestly answer the question myself. Before I got involved with a Man who had a child I was a big dreamer. I truly believe I can do anything I set my mind to. and there are so many things I wanted to do. I wanted to move to New York City to become a writer. I wanted to move to a different state every year for a little while and travel meet new people. experience everything life had to offer. I wanted to open a sit down fancy restaurant. Maybe go for a big marketing position. I wanted to help people, maybe become a counselor. I wanted to finish my Business Management Degree. I wanted and dreamed of all these amazing wonderful things to do knowing I would always end up back here at my families restaurant making sure it never closes. I just wanted to live a little before I did. I did leave the restaurant and move two hours away to be with Dwight. during those few years I was away from the business I became a Bonus Mom and suddenly all my dreams and aspirations became about helping raise her into become an amazing person. I'm still that girl though! I still wonder what it would be like to just get in the car and drive until I run out of gas. I still want to pick a direction and drive until I see ocean. I still want to live in New York in a crappy apartment trying to make it. while I would NEVER change the life I've chosen I would like to find a way to incorporate the girl I used to be with the one I am today. That's where the podcast came from. I wanted to help lift women up and help them navigate life. Im not saying I have all the answers but I am confident that if there really was a little more honesty and support we could all figure it out together!
I 'll add in the post I made on facebook and you all can let me know if I phrased it right for the responses I was trying to get. Until then that was my frustration this week Im glad i talked it out with all of you and now maybe as a collective we can support each other and I can move past it!
Talk to you next time xo xo
MY GROUP POST BELOW:
So I'm binge watching the bold type on hulu. It made me think of all my dreams that I havent been able to achieve or that have been put on hold since getting Into a relationship with a man who has a child. I now have different responsibilities and dreams but I can't help but hold onto the part of myself that sees new york city in shows and wants to pack up and move, or go back to school, or drop everything and travel europe. So basically I was wondering what all of you have felt like you've given up or put on hold to help raise children you didn't make. (This isn't a bad thing but it is a thing just for anyone who thinks I'm saying this was a sacrifice or something like that)
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